My wife has been a miracle for him. As he was passed around 3 foster homes in Dec-Jan, he was nervous and scared. Can you imagine a 4 year old sleeping in a different bed every few weeks? Heartbreaking, which is why we got him. As my home is brand new, inside anyway, due to fire in Nov '12, he's been living in a new home, own room, own bathroom, and everything new and clean, carpets, paint, floors, appliances, etc., and all junk thrown out, it's been an ideal place for him(house was in need of work big time before). My wife has him on a routine, taking him to daycare/school every day, to the town pool every evening, to the park all the time, and dinner at 6:30 every night, followed by heaping scoops of ice cream, complete with chocolate sauce, whipped cream and sprinkles, which he gets himself......every single night! Then it's a bath, and 4 books read to him every night. That's me when I'm home, the reader and story teller. We prefer the Dr. Seuss books, as they're better word teachers, and fun. He likes the rhyming. I've read the Thomas the Engine books dozens of times each. When I make up a story to tell him, he then copies it and tells me the same story, which we laugh at as I scowl at him for copying me. He laughs hysterically at that, my fake anger.
I see Catholic charities in Texas(Houston I think, though not sure) is asking people to be foster parents of mostly teens, from the border crossings. They actually say you can take up to 6 children, which of course would be overwhelming. But, a chance to help a child(ren).
This will end within a few weeks, but DCF (children's services) wants his mom to clean up her messy apartment first. She lives 40 miles away. And as she works, and with 3 kids, we just don't see how he'll have the fun he's been having(my wife also bought him a bike and scooter). She also takes him to the movies, and on Sunday, I took him to the science center on Lake Champlain, turtles, sturgeon, starfish, stuff like that, kinetic sand tables, which he loved. Pretty cool sand. With no other kids to care for, we have this time....but not much energy. And it's tough, particularly on my wife, to spend so much time at a pool or park, after you've already done that for years with your own children, but not recently. Parenting is sure for younger parents, and his mom is 23. We're both 60+. As we never intended to raise another child, and he will be a handful at 15 or so, and we'll be 70+, it's soon time to move on. But I spoke to my wife by phone this evening, and she's quite sad at him leaving, and for his well being. God willing, he'll be fine, and his mother really wants him, which is great. For us, he did brighten up our home. I cherish him coming into our room every morning upon waking. It's been almost 20 years since my kids did that.